"Hell is Other People" (Sartre said). However, But Must Other People be Hell? Its misunderstood or misjudgement have been thought that any our relations with other people are always poisoned, that they are invariably hellish relations. But its really mean is totally different that if relations with someone else are twisted, vitiated, then that other person can only be hell. When we try to acknowledge ourselves, we use the info. of us which other people already have. We judge ourselves with the means other people have and have given us for judging ourselves.
Thus, our choices not only affect ourselves, they also affect others. This means, in turn, that we are not only responsible for ourselves but also bear some responsibility for others -- for what they choose and what they do. It would be an act of self-deception to make a choice and then at the same time wish that others would not make the same choice. Accepting some responsibility for others following our lead is the only alternative.
你们是不是没有看过萨特的《Being and Nothingness》？在《Being and Nothingness》里解释的很清楚（不好意思，因为在外国上学，看的是英文版本）。特别是在公园里那段，还有关于shame和other-minds的问题，楼上的有几位大体意思是对的，是他人对我自由的一种干涉。因为我的自由（consciousness，准确的说是being-for-itself能够将其与物体objects分离, 准确的说与being-in-itself的分离，不在casual chain之中），但是在他人眼里，我(being-for-itself)只能算是一种being-in-itself。只能算作一个object。
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