lean in摘抄笔记(二）
senior people are not available to give guidance. The good news is that guidance can come from all levels.
Friends at the same stage of their careers may actually provide more current and useful counsel.
But as we learn to speak appropriately, we lose something in authenticity.
You never take my suggestions seriously” and “I feel frustrated that you have not responded to my last four e-mails, which leads me to believe that my suggestions are not that important to you. Is that so?
If more people were this clear, the performance of many organizations would improve dramatically.
----简单粗暴：less is more这只是对于有觉悟的公司以及讲道理的上司而言吧
The ability to listen is as important as the ability to speak.
reflecting someone’s viewpoint clarifies the disagreement and becomes a starting point for resolution
-----restating others‘ statements and feelings before you express your objections against them
being open to hearing the truth means taking responsibility for mistakes.
Requesting advice can also help build relationships.
what I could do to help them achieve their goals.
----从别人利益的角度出发来发号施令，更容易让人接受与听从
When people are open and honest, thanking them publicly encourages them to continue while sending a powerful signal to others.
-----别忘了对直白的建议表示感谢
“sense of humor” was the phrase most frequently used to describe the most effective leaders.
Sharing emotions builds deeper relationships.
ncreasingly, prominent thinkers in the field of leadership studies like Marcus Buckingham are challenging traditional notions of leadership. Their research suggests that presenting leadership as a list of carefully defined qualities (like strategic, analytical, and performance-oriented) no longer holds. Instead, true leadership stems from individuality that is honestly and sometimes imperfectly expressed.4 They believe leaders should strive for authenticity over perfection. This shift is good news for women, who often feel obliged to suppress their emotions in the workplace in an attempt to come across as more stereotypically male. And it’s also good news for men, who may be doing the exact same thing.
------领导力的现代观点绝非客观完美，而是真实个人。你不必为了显得很专业而抑制所有个人的情绪。cuz it will show your care for the job, it will trigger your co-workers' emotion and make people struggle together and towards the same direction, for you and for the whole business or the company.
I fully support any man or woman who dedicates his or her life to raising the next generation. It is important and demanding and joyful work.
What I am arguing is that the time to scale back is when a break is needed or when a child arrives— not before, and certainly not years in advance.
-----不要隔了几个步骤做决定。当你还在第一步时，先做第二部的计划。
Flexibility typically increases, too, as senior leaders often have more control over their hours and schedules.
-----when you hold up and move on, you grow and become more powerful than before. just keep in mind that your current situation doesn't project your future. Things change.
And what about men who want to leave the workforce? If we make it too easy for women to drop out of the career marathon, we also make it too hard for men.
------An interesting point. people, regardless of their gender, have to shoulder responsibilities and get constrained by one social convention or another. So promote the equity is not what we call feminism but the goal of the whole human race.
Make Your Partner a Real Partner----temporarily skip this chapter-coz I haven't got a partner.
All of us are dealing with the constrained optimization that is life, attempting to maximize our utility based on parameters like career, kids, relationships, etc., doing our best to allocate the resource of time. Due to the scarcity of this resource, therefore, none of us can ‘have it all,’ and those who claim to are most likely lying.”
------copy it for the vivid description. Life is like a mathematical function consisted of parameters and we all are adjusting each of them, trying the maximize our value.
Outside observers reminding us that we must be struggling—and failing—is just bitter icing on an already soggy cake.
------based on what should you expect that we female will fail before we have set out to do them? Shouldn't they pay more respect instead of suspicion to such super but also ordinary women? How absurd!
It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications. It will not be anything like what you think it will be like, but surprises are good for you. And don’t be frightened: you can always change your mind. I know: I’ve had four careers and three husbands.”
------On the premisesnthat you are able to ignore the expectations from others. Actually we are free except for getting trapped by money, as far as i am concerned.
Friends at the same stage of their careers may actually provide more current and useful counsel.
But as we learn to speak appropriately, we lose something in authenticity.
You never take my suggestions seriously” and “I feel frustrated that you have not responded to my last four e-mails, which leads me to believe that my suggestions are not that important to you. Is that so?
If more people were this clear, the performance of many organizations would improve dramatically.
----简单粗暴：less is more这只是对于有觉悟的公司以及讲道理的上司而言吧
The ability to listen is as important as the ability to speak.
reflecting someone’s viewpoint clarifies the disagreement and becomes a starting point for resolution
-----restating others‘ statements and feelings before you express your objections against them
being open to hearing the truth means taking responsibility for mistakes.
Requesting advice can also help build relationships.
what I could do to help them achieve their goals.
----从别人利益的角度出发来发号施令，更容易让人接受与听从
When people are open and honest, thanking them publicly encourages them to continue while sending a powerful signal to others.
-----别忘了对直白的建议表示感谢
“sense of humor” was the phrase most frequently used to describe the most effective leaders.
Sharing emotions builds deeper relationships.
ncreasingly, prominent thinkers in the field of leadership studies like Marcus Buckingham are challenging traditional notions of leadership. Their research suggests that presenting leadership as a list of carefully defined qualities (like strategic, analytical, and performance-oriented) no longer holds. Instead, true leadership stems from individuality that is honestly and sometimes imperfectly expressed.4 They believe leaders should strive for authenticity over perfection. This shift is good news for women, who often feel obliged to suppress their emotions in the workplace in an attempt to come across as more stereotypically male. And it’s also good news for men, who may be doing the exact same thing.
------领导力的现代观点绝非客观完美，而是真实个人。你不必为了显得很专业而抑制所有个人的情绪。cuz it will show your care for the job, it will trigger your co-workers' emotion and make people struggle together and towards the same direction, for you and for the whole business or the company.
I fully support any man or woman who dedicates his or her life to raising the next generation. It is important and demanding and joyful work.
What I am arguing is that the time to scale back is when a break is needed or when a child arrives— not before, and certainly not years in advance.
-----不要隔了几个步骤做决定。当你还在第一步时，先做第二部的计划。
Flexibility typically increases, too, as senior leaders often have more control over their hours and schedules.
-----when you hold up and move on, you grow and become more powerful than before. just keep in mind that your current situation doesn't project your future. Things change.
And what about men who want to leave the workforce? If we make it too easy for women to drop out of the career marathon, we also make it too hard for men.
------An interesting point. people, regardless of their gender, have to shoulder responsibilities and get constrained by one social convention or another. So promote the equity is not what we call feminism but the goal of the whole human race.
Make Your Partner a Real Partner----temporarily skip this chapter-coz I haven't got a partner.
All of us are dealing with the constrained optimization that is life, attempting to maximize our utility based on parameters like career, kids, relationships, etc., doing our best to allocate the resource of time. Due to the scarcity of this resource, therefore, none of us can ‘have it all,’ and those who claim to are most likely lying.”
------copy it for the vivid description. Life is like a mathematical function consisted of parameters and we all are adjusting each of them, trying the maximize our value.
Outside observers reminding us that we must be struggling—and failing—is just bitter icing on an already soggy cake.
------based on what should you expect that we female will fail before we have set out to do them? Shouldn't they pay more respect instead of suspicion to such super but also ordinary women? How absurd!
It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications. It will not be anything like what you think it will be like, but surprises are good for you. And don’t be frightened: you can always change your mind. I know: I’ve had four careers and three husbands.”
------On the premisesnthat you are able to ignore the expectations from others. Actually we are free except for getting trapped by money, as far as i am concerned.
