安利一首要做父母的人都适合听一下的歌

之前提到过了，但还是想再安利一遍这首歌

Growing Up (feat. Ed Sheeran)

想再次安利它的原因是，今天，在实习单位，当我把这首歌安利给我的实习负责人的时候，成功地把这个一米九的络腮胡子长发壮汉忽悠哭了。

关于负责人的外表，可以脑补一下钢之炼金术师里面阿姆斯特朗的样子。我负责人没他那么大块肌肉，比他圆胖喜人。

他的第一个孩子还有两个星期就要出生了，最近又是产检又是上婴儿护理培训课，看得出来是个又激动又淡定的准爸爸。他说他女友会休半年产假，然后他会接着休半年产假。还经常跟我说他女友好像紧张过头了，他觉得嘛，兵来将挡，水来土掩，怕啥。

然后，这歌他听到一半的时候，深吸一口气，声音也变了，说啊呀不行我得出去缓缓。然后客厅里传来响亮的擤鼻涕的声音。然后，他回来了，哑着嗓子嘟囔说，哎呀不行我得把这歌发给我女朋友，真是太好了。

我喜欢这首歌，除了它好听，还因为它让我看到希望。女权主义带给世界的美好改变，年轻的父母跳出性别角色的桎梏。

这首歌的开头，爸爸对未出生的孩子说，

他们都说男孩子不要哭 但是我是好哭包

他们都说做个男子汉 但我仍然会害怕

我有时候不知道自己是谁 会质疑自己的存在

但我只想做个好爸爸

他们都说女孩子不要那么强

妈妈应该在家里带孩子

可孩子，我知道那不是真的

因为你妈妈是我认识的最猛的人

我希望把你养大成她的样子

我很喜欢一点的是，这首歌里的爸爸不在逞强也不再装模作样去假装一个是万能的顶天立地的男人。他是一个还在成长的，也有很多困惑和恐惧的普通人，但他会尽全力爱这个孩子，做ta的后盾，带ta看世界，更重要的是帮助ta找到独立的自我，帮ta发现人与人之间的联系。

会认真这样想和实践的父母，几乎不可能把孩子养成一个没有共情能力/责任感的人。

（我的翻译惨不忍睹，在知乎上找到一个翻译，感觉还是不太行。）

lyrics

[Verse 1: Macklemore]

They say boys don't cry

But your dad has shed a lot of tears

They say I should be a strong man

But baby, I'm still filled with fear

Sometimes I don't know who I am

Sometimes I question why I'm here

I just wanna be a good dad

Will I be? I have no idea

They say girls shouldn't be tough

And moms should raise their kids at home

But baby, I know that that isn't true

Cause your momma's the toughest person I know

I wanna raise you to be like her

And watch you show the world how to do it on your own

I'm still tryna figure out who I am

I don't wanna mess this up or do this wrong

I'm gonna be there for your first breath

I don't know if I'll be there for your first step

I can promise you that I'll try to work less

But the tour's routed, and I got this album

Put in so many hours, and I just want the outcome

To be something that I can look back and I can be proud of

Don't wanna be a dad that's living in FaceTime

But I got a world to sing to and you at the same time

I won't spoil you, you can trust that

For your sweet sixteen, you get a bus pass

Had your heart broken? Been there, done that

I love you and I can't give you enough of that

Give back to community that raised you up

Read Langston Hughes, I suggest "A Raisin in the Sun"

Listen to Sam Cooke, a change gon' come

You put the work in, don't worry about the praise, my love

Don't try to change the world, find something that you love

And do it every day

Do that for the rest of your life

And eventually, the world will change

[Hook: Ed Sheeran]

I'll be patient, one more month

You'll wrap your fingers round my thumb

Times are changing, I know

But who am I if I'm the person you become

If I'm still growing up, up, up, up

I'm still growing up, up, up, up

I'm still growing up

[Verse 2: Macklemore]

I recommend that you read "The Alchemist"

Listen to your teachers, but cheat in calculus

Tell the truth, regardless of the consequence

And every day, give your momma a compliment

Take your girl to the prom

But don't get too drunk hanging out the limo

Slow dance with your woman in your arms

Sneak her in after but boy, you better tiptoe

Don't wake your mom up

Do yoga, learn 'bout karma

Find God, but leave the dogma

The quickest way to happiness? Learning to be selfless

Ask more questions, talk about yourself less

Study David Bowie, James Baldwin and 2Pac

Watch the sun set with best friends from a rooftop

Wear a helmet, don't be stupid

Jaywalk, but look before you do it

If it snows, go outside, build a jump, get some help

Get a sled, thrash the hill with your friends, 'til it melts

Go to festivals, camp, fall in love and dance

You're only young once, my loved one, this is your chance

Take risks, cause life moves so fast

You're only young once, my loved one, this is your chance

[Hook: Ed Sheeran]

I'll be patient, one more month

You'll wrap your fingers round my thumb

Times are changing, I know, but who am I if

I'm the person you become

If I'm still growing up, up, up, up

I'm still growing up, up, up, up

[Hook: Ed Sheeran]

I'll be patient, one more month

You'll wrap your fingers round my thumb

Times are changing, I know

But who am I if I'm the person you become

If I'm still growing up, still growing up, still growing up

If I'm still growing up, still growing up, still growing up

[Outro: Ed Sheeran]

I'm still growing up

I'm still growing up, ooh

I'm still growing up

I'm still growing up

之前发过的一条广播。温柔的父母会养出来温柔的孩子。