Love vs. Possession

刚看了Prince Ea的新作，《Stop saying "I love you"》，超棒的。想把台词记下来温习，就做了，谁知写完之后不小心全抹掉，而豆瓣新版不知道为啥不提供undo键…… 还好找了下，原来网上已经有台词了：

Stop saying, I love you.

Seriously, it’s the most misused phrase on Earth. It’s a nice thing to say to someone, but tell me: Do you mean it? A lot of people say it cause it’s convenient, but tell me, do you really mean it?

A reporter asked an elderly couple, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” The woman’s reply blew me away. She said, “We were born in a time when if something was broken, we would fix it. Not just throw it away.” Hearing her words made me pause for a second. No, no, more than just a second because it made me realize that what most people call love today, isn’t love at all. It’s possession. And not to be a cynic but I feel most people in our generation just don’t know the difference.

So, if you’re confused then stop saying, “I love you.” Don’t even fix your lips to make the sound. You want to know the difference between love and possession? Well stay tuned as I break it down.

Contrary to popular belief, true love is not blind. It has 20/20 vision. And a loving relationship is not 50/50 either. It is 100/100. A total commitment. It’s not a trade or a balancing act. It is all chips on the table, your whole heart, and that’s that.

Do not fall into the trappings. Love says, “I want you to be happy.” Possession says, “I want you to make me happy.” Cause Possession is actually the opposite of Love; it’s other name is addiction. Love has an alias too. It goes by understanding and commitment.

See, while Possession says, “me.”; Love says, “we.” Possession is a cage; Love is the sea. Possession wants to control; Love wants to free. Possession wants to become; Love wants to be. Possession keeps receipts to remember its good deeds.

Love does not keep score but remembers we are on the same team. Possession hardens the heart; Love softens it. Possession picks a flower out of the ground, but Love waters it. Possession wants to hide; Love is vulnerable and exposed. Possession sees the body; Love sees the soul.

Love trusts the process. Possession controls the direction. Possession wants to win the argument. Love desires to win connection. Possession is filled with darkness; Love, with sunlight. Possession says,” who’s right?” Love says, “what’s right?”

Love is not sweaty palms or a pounding heart. No, it’s more of a calm explosion. Possession destroys those who touch it. Love heals all who hold it. Possession is counterfeit. Love is the only truth. Possession fades away; Love is forever because it is absolute.

But look, nothing is perfect. Even love needs to be fed. A daily dose of forgiveness, understanding, not just those empty words, said. So, are you willing to persevere through tough times? And choose love every single day? And you willing to fix things that are broken? And not just throw them away?

If you said yes, I promise your love will last a lifetime and everyday will feel brand new. Just do me one favor. Please respect the word, “Love”. And say it only to those you truly do.

爱永远都是一种选择呢。那什么，爱得深，无法自拔，那其实是人人都做得到的，几乎可以说是自动的吧。爱没那么容易。我想，当我们失恋的时候，我们先别问为什么ta不爱我了，而应该先问自己，我懂不懂什么是爱，我有没有做到？如果问心无愧，对方仍然舍我而去，那大概就是ta还需要学习，属于有缘无分，惋惜完了继续好好生活吧。祝天下有情人终成眷属，永不放弃。