Collaboration between you and your mind.
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By Marisa Peer
When you can collaborate with your mind, tell it what you want, you will get what you want. Your need to know four things about your mind. If you can put the four things in practice, you will success across the board at every level.
1. Your mind does exactly specifically what it thinks you want it to do.
If you haven’t got what you want, but you’ve got behaviors you don’t want, you are not collaborating properly with your mind.
2. Your mind is hardwired to move you towards pleasure and away from pain.
3. The way you feel about everything all the time is only down to two things, the pictures you make in your head, the words you say to yourself.
4. Your mind loves what is familiar. It’s programed to keep going repeatedly in what is familiar. If you want to success at any level, you must turn what’s familiar unfamiliar and what’s unfamiliar familiar.
Your mind does what it really thinks you want to do it. You mind listens all the time to your language. If you say these exams are killing me; I am dying under this paperwork. My boss is a nightmare, I am overwhelmed. I can’t cope with the stress. If you telling your mind something like that, you are telling it you do want to do it. So, if your mind thinks you don’t want it, Guess what? It will encourage you to procrastinate, bunk off, not apply yourself. Your mind is very specific to the words you use. If you say “I’d love a week off in bed. I am overwhelmed with this stress. I just wish I could have a week off at home lounging around.’’ Your mind goes like this:” There you go, I’ll give you the flu. Don’t you ask for it?’’. If you say “I am dreading having to give the presentation next week. So, I will do anything to get out of it. Your mind is like:” ok, why don’t you have an upset stomach?” There’s your get-out-of-the-presentation behavior. That’s how your mind works. It does what it thinks you want. If you haven’t got what you want, it’s because you use words: it’s too hard, it’s too difficult; it takes all my time. When I wrote my first book, I got a book deal, I kind of knew that I involved isolating myself in writing. And I didn’t want to do i.e. spent a long-time procrastinating until I realize I had to say:” I want to write I have chosen to write to feel great about it. And those words will change your life. This is way more than positive thinking. It is collaborating with you mind. So, look at your behavior and if you haven’t got what you want, you are not communicating with your mind properly. Image if you were to run a marathon and you started by going: ok,24 miles to go, I hate this. It’s so boring so hard, so difficult. You are not going to finish it. You must go like: I love it I enjoy it, even when it isn’t true. So that how you collaborate with you mind. You must tell it, using very specific, very detailed, very precise words what you want. When you are doing it, you say, I want this. I’ve chosen this. I like it.
And you must link pleasure because here is step two. Your mind will always love you towards pleasure and away from pain. If you eat something that make you sick, and you link pain to it, and you can never eat this again for the rest of your life. You are hardwired to avoid pain. But if you link pain to studying, public speaking, being something getting attention, that’s very very difficult. And you can chose every day what is pleasure and what is pain. you are the only person can do it. some who link pain to pleasure. And I learned this when I worked with addicts. Those are people right at the top of their game. Hollywood actor movie stars, models who would link absolute to sticking a needle in their body. Because they would get high. And to them that pain was pleasure.so couple years ago, I broke my arm, and when they took the cast off, it was up there. And I was like, how do I get this straight? “they said：“we can’t get this straight.”and they went: “well, we can break it surgery, but it might not work, and it might make it even worse. ’so, I don’t do it. I want a straight arm.so I found the best physio, he said: “I can get your arm straight, but I will be really hurt.’’ And it’ll take a lot of commitment. You got to come in twice a week. I know It going to be hurt, but I know how to collaborate with my mind, so I went along, and I kept saying to my brain, I want it, I want it. I have chosen to have a straight aria can take the pain; I want the pain. Let’s do it. And so, when he started to pull my arm, he wasn’t kidding when he said it is hurt. And of course, when someone hurting you, your instinct is to pull back. I couldn’t do that, I had to pull forward. But I was always telling my mind I want it. And I got my arm completely straight. And the end, he said: “I don’t know how you did that, because most of people give up hallway.’’ I lined pain to not getting it, and pleasure to the pain if you like. So, if you must read in class and you got a wrong word. Everybody laughed at you, and you think:” right, that’s it I will never be going to speak in public. I will never be going to be the focus of attention again’ ’ten years later, you are about to give a speech or presentation, or char a meeting. And you will have a panic attack. Because your mind is like:” oh,nonono, speaking in public is pain, don’t you forget it?” and you have to change it. You have got to tell you mind exactly what you want. And you have got to link pleasure not pain to doing things that is hard.
And the third thing about you mind is that it responds only to two things. The picture you make in your head and the words you say to yourself. That’s all that is. So, I worked with a footballer who come from nowhere. He was playing for not any division team. And he went straight into the premier league. He wasn’t very tall, he said:” I feel daunted because I am not tall.’ And I said, image you are Maradona, do you think he says that, when he goes on the pitch? I don’t fell tall enough? Of course, no!” the picture you make in your head and the words you say to yourself will change everything. Let me show you. just put your arm out in front of you. I want you to image, in your hand, you are holding half of a big fat, juicy lemon, close your eyes. I want you tot image bring the lemon up to your mouth. You can squeeze it you can feel and smell that wonderful lemon feeling. So now, open your mouth and take a massive bite. Bite the lemon in half and chew that around. And you will find immediately you are pumping out masses of saliva(分泌唾液) to a thought. But you see to things, the picture you made in you head was a lemon, the words you made on eating a lemon.
So, the fourth thing about your mind is: It loves what is familiar. And I will go for what is familiar. If what is familiar is procrastinating, messing about not applying yourself, feeling uncomfortable in public, and not believe in yourself, you have got to make that completely unfamiliar.(I think just do never do it later) and you have to make what is unfamiliar familiar. Working hard, believe in youself. putting in the hours, deciding to love it.
We don't like to say:” I am the best, I am the greatest, because we think we are faking it. But I just show you, when you believe you are eating a lemon, you start to make that happen. Whatever you tell your mind, it believes. So, tell it better things. First make you beliefs and then your beliefs make you .and when you stretch your mind to a new dimension, it never ever goes back. Because your potential expands as you move towards it. You can’t even know what your potential is.
