Why Men Marry Bitches ,In biz world
Don’t take me wrong, but I am not up to an article about Men & Women relationship guidance. ‘Why Men Marry Bithces’ is a New York Times bestselling book about why and how ‘bitches’ instead of ‘nice girls’ would get commitment from a man and eventually take him down. The female author Sherry Argov wrote this book - covering over 70 Principle Rules - based on her interviews with numerous men and the tone of this book is all objective from their saucy and candid point of views.
Gee! You know what, I have scanned the book and I should say the philosophy of the principles is nevertheless so alike to business world that companies should borrow it as a reference book when dealing with any pertinent external parties no matter they are clients, suppliers, brokers, bankers or government agents.
Why?
Because it’s all about a psychological game, and therefore to achieve your target know your game, play the game!
And How?
Let’s take a peek at several secret scoops one-by-one.
Relationship scenario 1:
‘Bitches’ know how to draw a man’s attention by simply yet tactfully being herself rather than ‘nice girls’ posing all the gestures and pretending to be the girls he dreams of.
In the business world:
You should know how to knock up the ‘external parties’ - say a client’s door - by being sincere, authentic and at the same time armed with a full business plan and presentation skills.
Remember: If you lie, the client (your man) will eventually know; if you oversell your products/ services/ promises, he will feel disappointed deeper sooner or later as expected higher; but if you undersell, he’ll classify you as a short term and consider it’s cheap.
The attention or chemistry will actually be drawn by the authentic story presented to the client, not a fairy tale, not a fiction.
Relationship scenario 2:
‘Bitches’ know how to gain a man’s respect by self-esteem and self-improvement rather than ‘nice girls’ guising their confidence and following whatever instructions/ requests/ coax of the man.
In the business world:
You should win the trust of any of your external parties (the man).
If you are a supplier you need to establish your manufacturing/ service capacity, make sure the quality meets the client’s requirements, deliver the goods on time, and make sure the work process align with the client’s and prevent stupid mistakes.
Don’t behave like a servant who would try pleasing your client/ customer beyond your capability/ reach. The same don’t walk in without standards and cave in on whatever sold to you, even crap. That way your client (the man) will be more hooked up by you than others.
If you are a buyer B-2-B, make sure you are credited and trustworthy, especially regarding the AP issue or if you are a service buyer B-2-C you are a civilized customer and communicate your requirements/orders as precisely as possible.
Make sure you are self retrospective and learning/ developing/ improving all the time. Make commitment/ promise of only what you conclude (rather than believe) you can do. That way, trust will be built up day-by-day.
Relationship scenario 3:
‘The bitches’ know how to spice up the relationship by throwing nice surprises once in a while rather than ‘nice girls’ naively mistaking a 24/7 routine would 100% lead to a fixated relationship.
In the business world:
When the contract has been signed, both of you parties mustn’t outlaw. When business processes have been established and practiced handsomely between you parties for quite a while, you should not take it for granted that your client/ supplier will sleep on it forever.
For example, sometimes you should be flexible, say there are times you need to give green lights to your key accounts to easy some sales process (since the trust has been well built up); you should constantly keep conscious to find disadvantages/ shortcomings in the process and to improve it; or you may need to exert the ‘emotional involvement’ tool to keep the communication between you parties smoothly and friendly.
And more -
One step outfoot of you? One step backward of me.
Bad behavior from you? Bad behavior mirrored in me.
You want to control me? I will control you by controlling myself.
…
metaphorically, companies are used to assimilating the pertinent parties to a female figure. Because most unconsciously, a male character would have implicitly claimed their masculine charisma and presumably they have dominated in the first place the negotiation power in a relationship. Yet, in some situations if you sympathize in a female logic, you may play around in their world better. Likewise, at some event if a company assumes itself in a ‘bitch’ position, you may learn how to win over your ‘man’ better.
Gee! You know what, I have scanned the book and I should say the philosophy of the principles is nevertheless so alike to business world that companies should borrow it as a reference book when dealing with any pertinent external parties no matter they are clients, suppliers, brokers, bankers or government agents.
Why?
Because it’s all about a psychological game, and therefore to achieve your target know your game, play the game!
And How?
Let’s take a peek at several secret scoops one-by-one.
Relationship scenario 1:
‘Bitches’ know how to draw a man’s attention by simply yet tactfully being herself rather than ‘nice girls’ posing all the gestures and pretending to be the girls he dreams of.
In the business world:
You should know how to knock up the ‘external parties’ - say a client’s door - by being sincere, authentic and at the same time armed with a full business plan and presentation skills.
Remember: If you lie, the client (your man) will eventually know; if you oversell your products/ services/ promises, he will feel disappointed deeper sooner or later as expected higher; but if you undersell, he’ll classify you as a short term and consider it’s cheap.
The attention or chemistry will actually be drawn by the authentic story presented to the client, not a fairy tale, not a fiction.
Relationship scenario 2:
‘Bitches’ know how to gain a man’s respect by self-esteem and self-improvement rather than ‘nice girls’ guising their confidence and following whatever instructions/ requests/ coax of the man.
In the business world:
You should win the trust of any of your external parties (the man).
If you are a supplier you need to establish your manufacturing/ service capacity, make sure the quality meets the client’s requirements, deliver the goods on time, and make sure the work process align with the client’s and prevent stupid mistakes.
Don’t behave like a servant who would try pleasing your client/ customer beyond your capability/ reach. The same don’t walk in without standards and cave in on whatever sold to you, even crap. That way your client (the man) will be more hooked up by you than others.
If you are a buyer B-2-B, make sure you are credited and trustworthy, especially regarding the AP issue or if you are a service buyer B-2-C you are a civilized customer and communicate your requirements/orders as precisely as possible.
Make sure you are self retrospective and learning/ developing/ improving all the time. Make commitment/ promise of only what you conclude (rather than believe) you can do. That way, trust will be built up day-by-day.
Relationship scenario 3:
‘The bitches’ know how to spice up the relationship by throwing nice surprises once in a while rather than ‘nice girls’ naively mistaking a 24/7 routine would 100% lead to a fixated relationship.
In the business world:
When the contract has been signed, both of you parties mustn’t outlaw. When business processes have been established and practiced handsomely between you parties for quite a while, you should not take it for granted that your client/ supplier will sleep on it forever.
For example, sometimes you should be flexible, say there are times you need to give green lights to your key accounts to easy some sales process (since the trust has been well built up); you should constantly keep conscious to find disadvantages/ shortcomings in the process and to improve it; or you may need to exert the ‘emotional involvement’ tool to keep the communication between you parties smoothly and friendly.
And more -
One step outfoot of you? One step backward of me.
Bad behavior from you? Bad behavior mirrored in me.
You want to control me? I will control you by controlling myself.
…
metaphorically, companies are used to assimilating the pertinent parties to a female figure. Because most unconsciously, a male character would have implicitly claimed their masculine charisma and presumably they have dominated in the first place the negotiation power in a relationship. Yet, in some situations if you sympathize in a female logic, you may play around in their world better. Likewise, at some event if a company assumes itself in a ‘bitch’ position, you may learn how to win over your ‘man’ better.
